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What's Your Stand Alone Worth
No really. I need you to sit with that for a second. Not your worth as somebody's girlfriend. Not your worth as somebody's mama. Not your worth as the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody calls when things fall apart. You. Just you. By yourself. What are you worth? Because somewhere between trying to keep everybody happy and trying to hold everything together — a lot of us lost the answer to that question. And some of us never knew it to begin with. The World Has

Kashmire Kay
Oct 15, 2024


The Secret Sauce to Transform & Heal
You know, that magic formula we're all searching for to fix our broken bits and turn our lives around. Well, guess what? I've come to realize that there's no secret sauce at all. In fact, the real recipe for healing and transformation has been right in front of us all along, hidden in plain sight within the pages of God's word. Picture this, you're standing in your kitchen, staring at a blank canvas of ingredients, wondering where to start. That's how I felt when I first bega

Kashmire Kay
Feb 16, 2024


Your Smile is Your Weapon
Ever crossed paths with someone who has a smile pasted on their face 24/7 and thought, "What's the real deal behind their smile?" "There's no way they can be that happy." Psalm 34:5 says, "Those who look to Him are radiant with joy." I used to do swim aerobics several times a week and strangers would walk up to me and say, "Your smile inspires me." A sweet elderly lady told me, "Honey, when I see you jumping up and down in this water, your smile inspires me to keep pushing."

Kashmire Kay
Nov 29, 2023


Coming Home to Yourself Again
There comes a moment after an emotionally unhealthy relationship where you look in the mirror and realize the deepest loss was never just the relationship itself. It was the distance that formed between you and yourself. Somewhere between trying to keep the peace, trying to explain your heart, trying to be understanding, trying to hold everything together, you slowly stopped hearing your own voice. Your needs became secondary. Your feelings became negotiable. Your exhaustion

Kashmire Kay
Oct 18, 2023


Keys to Nurture Your Daughters Emotional Health
In the heart of every family, there lies a sea of emotions waiting to be woven together. Our journey through life is an intricate blend...

Kashmire Kay
Sep 28, 2023


Awakened to the Power Within
You remember Dorothy, don't you. Swept up in a storm she didn't ask for. Dropped into a world she didn't recognize. Surrounded by noise and chaos and people telling her which way to go... spending the whole movie searching for somebody powerful enough to send her back home. And at the very end, Glinda leans in close and says words that should have made Dorothy holler: "You've always had the power, my dear. You've had it all along." Chile, she had been wearing the answer on he

Kashmire Kay
Sep 18, 2023


You Attract What You Are Within
No really. I need you to sit with that for a second. Not your worth as somebody's girlfriend. Not your worth as somebody's mama. Not your worth as the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody calls when things fall apart. You. Just you. By yourself. What are you worth? Because somewhere between trying to keep everybody happy and trying to hold everything together...a lot of us lost the answer to that question. And some of us never knew it to begin with. The World Bee

Kashmire Kay
Sep 12, 2023


Discover Yourself Journey- Healing Tips
Healing from unhealthy patterns is a unique and personal journey that most of us will have to face in order to become whole. Here are...

Kashmire Kay
Jun 27, 2023


Holes in Your Soul
If you have a hole in your soul that does not mean that you are not a whole person. Having a hole in your soul reveals that there is...
shinesugashine
Apr 27, 2023


Invaluable Peace
"Some things are simply too costly to surrender." Sugas, I need to talk to you about something that took me far too long to understand and that is the true value of your peace. There was a season in my life when I handed the key to my peace to another person. I didn't realize what I was doing at the time, but I was placing the most precious thing I owned into the hands of someone who had no intention of keeping it safe. And here's what I know now: the one who holds the key to
shinesugashine
Mar 21, 2022


Courage to Shine...again
What we tend to pay attention somehow magnifies in our lives, but those who take the posture of gratitude tend to be more satisfied in...
shinesugashine
Mar 21, 2022


8 Matters of the Heart (to discuss with your teenage girl)
By Kashmire Kay 1. Yes, I am your mother, however, you came through me, you are not me. Sweetheart, God made you to be an individual....
shinesugashine
Aug 11, 2021


That Mama Wound
By Kashmire Kay There's no other love that exists on the planet like the love that comes from a mother. Maternal love was physically and...
shinesugashine
Apr 6, 2021


Connect your Dots
In an effort to truly heal and move into a safe space, you will have to connect the dots that will hopefully lead you to the pattern of why you were engaged in narcissistic relationships in the first place. When you have trouble defining love, especially when that love has been absent or toxic, you tend to try and find it elsewhere. This search for that companion may be found in the wrong places, leading you down a steep road of confusion, pain, trauma and manipulation. Altho
shinesugashine
Apr 6, 2021


No Outlet
I sometimes forget that we as Christians are in a spiritual battle, daily. What is before me is not what is BE-FORE me…Jesus is. We...
shinesugashine
Jan 21, 2021


Welcome Home Sugas!
For years my heart had no home. Not a real one. I had places I lived. I had people I stayed for. But that deep, settled, safe kind of home, the kind where you can exhale all the way down, I did not have. What I had was confusion I had learned to call normal. What I had was silence I had learned to call peace. What I had was a version of myself that had been quietly disappearing for so long I had almost stopped noticing she was gone. I allowed mistreatment to become my shelter
shinesugashine
Nov 6, 2020
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