EMPOWER TEENS

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8 Matters of the Heart for You

 

By Kashmire Kay

 

1. Yes, I am your mother, however, you came through me, you are not me.

Sweetheart, God made you to be an individual. Even though I carried you for 9 months and birthed you into this world, there is a purpose that you have to fulfill while you are on this earth that has nothing to do with me. You have been fearfully and wonderfully made. Go and be.

 

2. Know how to carry yourself when I’m not around.

Honey, I love that you honor me by not acting foolish or making unwise choices when I am around but it is even more important that you have the courage and bravery to do the right thing when Mama is nowhere in sight.

 

3. The importance of cherishing friendships & show her how to do it.

Suga, real friendships are not easy to come by as society portrays. When God blesses your life with a real friend that accepts you for you and they love you anyway? Let’s talk about how we can nurture that relationship. Reciprocals are not just for fractions. Do unto others as others do unto you.

 

4. How to take care of her body.

Darling daughter, yes, I found it a bit challenging to discuss sex and all that comes with that with you. Your emotions may be all over the place. I want to make sure that you know how to tend to your body as you go through so many changes. Let’s talk about the different phases of puberty and what you may encounter in your physical body such as emotional changes, more curves, odors, your period and what you can do to make it an enjoyable experience.

 

5. The importance of being kind.

Phenomenal daughter, in the current state of our world, kindness will take you very far. Sometimes it can be quite challenging to extend the olive branch especially when others are reacting or being downright mean. Choosing kindness is a decision that you can make daily.

 

6. The importance of establishing boundaries and showing her how to do it.

Lovely daughter, my mother used to tell me that people will treat you how you allow them to treat you. There is an element of truth to that. Boundaries that you establish for yourself will prevent you from wasting your time. Let’s dive deeper and identify what that may look like.

 

7. Getting in touch with what she values so she will not be in uncompromising situations

Dear daughter, know who you are. Know what you will or will not tolerate. Treat others well. Do the right thing. Go and be.

 

8. The importance of prayer

Good daughter, it is simply a posture of talking to God every single day about everything that crosses your mind. He wants a relationship with you not just a laundry list of requests. God is your everything.

 

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